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The realities of post-grad life

Posted in Lifestyle
on 08/28/2019

HI MY FRIENDS. I missed y’all so much it hurts. It’s been TWO months since I’ve posted. I have been one busy girl. Post-grad life is happenin. IT’S HAPPENIN PEOPLE! In the midst of all the crazy, I’ve been collecting my thoughts for another #girltalk post. We’re adding another one in the series of transition, new beginnings and life updates.

Post-grad life. Let me just say it’s weird? Kinda scary too. I’m all the sudden supposed to be an adult and have it together? How rude! Growing up is hard, that’s for sure. Having a full-time job, saving money, being responsible, time management, etc… it’s just A LOT.

Now to clear the air, I am in no way trying to complain about post-grad life because I truly am so grateful to have the opportunities that I do. This year is something so special and I don’t want to take it for granted. I’m just here to say I feel ya. If post-grad life has you feeling a bit unfulfilled, I feel ya. If post-grad life has you missing home, I feel ya. If post-grad life has you questioning everything, I feel ya. I really do. What I will say is that it’s a season of unparalleled growth. It’s a season to test the waters, really figure out who you are, and what you want to do. It’s a scary time, but I just know the growth I’ll experience in this season will be so worth it.

I’m also here to say it’s all about the mindset. YES- this season is hard and it’s challenging but it’s what we’ve been working towards our entire lives. Remember when we would say “when I grow up I want to do/be…” like it was nothing! Like the world was still in our hands! Knowing we’ve reached that stage of life where we are “grown up” brings me an odd sense of calm.

THIS IS IT. Seize this season! There will never be another time to explore, create and take risks in like this one! Failure is eminent, but it’s what is so appealing about this time in our lives. Try and if it doesn’t work, try again. The time is now to do all the things you said you would “when you grew up.”

The adjustment has been challenging! I won’t lie. I’ve been feeling super homesick, nervous, and unclear of what’s to come. I miss all my friends and family and GOD DO I MISS COLLEGE. Between all the struggles and ups/downs, I’m going to promise myself to be grateful for this season. Things will never be like this again! Take advantage of it.


PS: I started LGIP before I got to college, so to be able to sit down today and write a post encompassing all the feels towards post-grad life is ABSOLUTELY INSANE. It’s a been quite the experience growing up on the internet!

Why beginning is the hardest + how to conquer it

Posted in Lifestyle
on 06/23/2019

Ya know when you get a thought? A thought so great you HAVE to get out a pen and paper (or in my case my notes app) and write it allll down? Coming home from my weeklong trip had me drained and frankly I wasn’t even sure what I was going to write about this week. Then it hit me. Beginning.

There’s something so beautiful about beginnings. They’re fresh, new, and can bring a sense of fulfillment. But sometimes they’re daunting, scary, unknown. You’ve got to go through some of the bad to get to the good. So today we talk: beginnings.

I visited the JFK museum two weeks ago in Boston, and while the entire thing was dazzling there was one quote in the last exhibit that struck a chord with me. JFK once said, “All of this will not be finished in the first one hundred days. Nor will it be finished in the first one thousand days… But let us begin.” That got me thinking: beginning is the hardest part.

The anticipation that leads up to that initial moment of stepping into uncharted territory can kill ya. I’ve talked before about the waiting game and that in between season so many of us struggle with. But now the time has come to ACTUALLY DO IT. DO THINGS. SCARY I KNOW. 

You just have to get over that initial hurdle. Why do we build things up so much making us so anxious to start anything new? Anything different? Out of our comfort zone? I for one am guilty as charged! As a chronic over-thinker, this is something I deal with quite frequently. There’s always a voice in the back of my head that holds me back. Being out of your comfort zone is scary. You have to re-learn the ropes and it’s not always the easiest or most fun task. I get worked up before I even start.

One of my 2019 goals was to go more confidently. So I’m taking that into account when I challenge y’all to join me in beginning. Just start- no matter how big the jump. You won’t get anywhere if you don’t at least take a chance! All it takes is one step in the right direction. It may be something so minuscule you won’t notice an immediate difference, it may be something so huge is shakes you the second you start. Either way it’s a start.

Don’t be afraid to make that jump. There’s always something better on the other side. All you have to do is begin.

inspiration | motivation | empowering

SENDING Y’ALL OFF INTO THE WEEK WITH GOOD VIBES. 

More #girltalk reads:

Relinquishing control even when it’s hard

22 things I learned by 22

Knowing your self worth

Seasons of waiting aren’t always a bad thing + here’s why…

Posted in Lifestyle
on 03/28/2019

So it’s the end of March (April is so close I can taste it) and I’m stuck in this awkward phase. It’s somewhere between: I’m a college student who just wants to have her fun and the fear of being an adult is on the horizon. May will bring graduation, and along with it, the loss of a routine I’ve been living for my entire life. School, summer, and then school… AGAIN. The thought that this routine would have to break at some point has crossed my mind but I like to push it to the back burner. After graduation, things will never be the same. For the past 22 years, the idea that someday I would have to become an adult seemed just so distant. Well, not anymore! So now, we wait. Wait for what? Wait to be scared?

After doing all of this hard thinking (which I then rewarded myself for with some Netflix), I came to a conclusion.

Waiting for something to happen: whether it be a job, boy to come along, the right time to move, change your hair color, reinvent yourself can become a good thing if you let it.

There is purpose in this season of waiting. I’ve become a firm believer that things happen for a reason. People are put in your life for a reason. Everything has it’s purpose. That’s the piece to the puzzle I was searching for before. Life is about to come and hit me like a ton of bricks so so so soon, but this “waiting game” should not pass without my acknowledging it’s purpose. The “waiting game” should not distract me from living life. IT’S HAPPENING ALL AROUND ME.

Be grateful for the between season. I personally have found so much joy in the nostalgia of it all. Looking back on my past four years of college with all the crazy late nights, early mornings, and everything in between has been something so so special. It’s not just the nostalgia that I’ve relished in, but the fact that my life will never be the way it is right now. I will never be able to graduate collage again, to share all of these funny college memories with my friends like going out until 2am at our college bars, eating as much Chick-Fil-A as our stomachs can hold, and laughing until we cry. Bittersweet is probably the best way to describe it. While enjoying this season I’m in, thoughts of the future continue to creep in.

Basically what I’m trying to say is, don’t let the “waiting game” keep you from living your life. Don’t wait of the next big thing to come along and miss the amazing things happening in front of you! Challenge yourself to make those in between moments count. Find the joy in the little moments, even though they may not feel like much at the time, you’ll appreciate them so much more when you’re through with all of it.

UNTIL NEXT TIME, LOVE YOU PEOPLE IMMENSELY.

Striped sets + my movie marathon list

Posted in Fashion, Lifestyle
on 02/21/2019

The weather lately has been the biggest drag. It’s been rainy and chilly, which is a combination I’m not a fan of. It makes me wanna curl up with a good movie and never ever leave. Anyone feel me on this? I swear I could do that every day for the rest of my life and not get tired of it! A girls gotta Netflix and binge you know!

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Speaking of curling up in bed with a good movie, there’s nothing that’s more comfy to do it in than a matching set. If you’ve been following me for a while, I’m sure you know that I am a SUCKER for a matching set. There’s just something so extra about it, but I love it too much. I picked up this set a few weeks ago and it has not left my body for very long. I am looooving the muted stripes and the colors are just so fun and springy! Plus you can definitely wear it out! Grocery shopping? Errands? Coffee? Casual lunch? You need for all of the above. Comfy, cute, and matching – nothin better.

I’ll go ahead and put a few of my other favorite matching sets below for y’all! Hop on the bandwagon with me :-)

If you know me, you know I watch ALOT of TV. Really, I do! I would consider myself a connoisseur of romantic comedies. I’ve pretty much seen almost of all them on Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon… is that something to celebrate? Idk honestly but I’ll take it! I guess it comes in handy sometimes… and now is one of those cases. I put together a huuuuge list of all my favorite rom-coms from the 80s to now. If you ever need a movie, or 11, to watch- just come here. Screenshot this list and check em all off! You’ll be much more prone to think your life is a movie (I know I do- it’s a character flaw).

THE BEST ROM-COMS EVER

A Cinderella Story // He’s Just Not That Into You // 10 Things I Hate About You // She’s All That // Drive Me Crazy

You’ve Got Mail // 13 Going on 30 // Two Weeks Notice // Stuck in Love // Yours Mine and Ours // Pretty Woman

 Pretty in Pink // Can’t Buy Me Love // Legally Blonde // My Big Fat Greek Wedding // She’s The Man // 27 Dresses

Easy A // Bride Wars // Bridesmaids // Crazy, Stupid, Love // Princess Diaries (1 & 2) // White Christmas // Hairspray

Baby Mama // Mamma Mia // To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before // Almost Famous // Parent Trap // Lizzie McGuire Movie

Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants // Aquamarine // High School Muscial (ALL 3 OBVI) // Pitch Perfect (1 only)

Friends with Benefits // No Strings Attached // Lady Bird // Breakfast at Tiffany’s // Bring It On // La La Land // Grease

The Devil Wears Prada // While You Were Sleeping // Never Been Kissed // Love Actually // Clueless // Trainwreck

When Harry Met Sally // The Proposal

 

PLEASE WATCH SOME MOVIES THIS WEEKEND IN MY NAME! DM me any you think I should add to the list :)

Relinquishing control even when it’s hard

Posted in Lifestyle
on 02/10/2019

 I’ve been feeling like I’m over thinking ABSOLUTELY everything and getting in my head way too much lately. Especially over things that I have zero control over. Healthy, right?! Yeah it’s def something I would recommend if you wanna drive yourself crazy :-)

So last week I made a little challenge for myself.

Stop wasting all your time dwelling on things that you have no control over. Start spending more time thinking about the things that you can control. Your thoughts, your actions, your appearance, your Instagram aesthetic — whatever it is that will help you to feel the control that you need! Does that make sense? It is so much easier said than done, but I did notice that this week I felt a lot better this week. Spending hours and hours focusing on what others are thinking and doing sucks the damn life outta you. I KNOW. I’ve been there. It’s seriously one of the most draining feelings to continue to try to control things that you JUST CAN’T. Harsh reality I know, but it’s so true.

I needed that reminder this week and hey, maybe you do too! Focus on yourself and the rest will fall into place. I really have become such a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and if it’s meant to be it will be. I’ve seen that in the past few years, so I’m stickin to it.

Don’t be afraid to relinquish control. It will be worth it in the end. You’ll mentally feel better, I can promise you that. Pour your energy into what you can control. Mindset is everything. When is the last time you woke up and told yourself you were gonna have a great day? I know for me, it doesn’t happen often. I get caught up in the routine. But there’s so much value in having a positive mindset. Good things will come! There is so much to look forward to! Find gratitude in the unknown, I’m sure that better things are ahead for you.

One of my favorite sayings is the serenity prayer. I’ll say it when I’m stressed out about WHATEVER just as a reminder. It always calms me down.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.

And if you’re in a #girltalk mood then check out some other posts:

Knowing your self-worth

Dealing with self-doubt

Mid summer recap + reflection

 

Set your sights high this week! You can do it – just don’t be afraid to lose control.

Madison

2019 goals + realities

Posted in Lifestyle
on 01/03/2019

A VERY HAPPY 2019 TO Y’ALL! In the midst of all of the chaos that has been my life for these past two months, I have not been present on my fave lil corner of the web. For that I’m sorry! Senior year has really got me goin craaaazy (in the best/worst ways). BUT I am back for a lil #girltalk #realtalk which happens to be y’alls favorite to read and mine to write! This post could seriously be ALLL over the place but I think that’s the point of a #realtalk. It’s not always going to be the most linear, easy-to-follow kind of post but it’s gonna be a good ole venting session and who doesn’t need one of those?!

Now, before we get started let’s dip our toes in the warm waters that are new years resolutions, new years goals, new years whatever-you-wanna-call-em. Yeah sure, they can be a great motivator for those first few months, weeks, or days (lol) of the year but how do you actually be sure you accomplish them?! I don’t necessarily like to call them new years resolutions; I prefer to call/make them into goals. The best way to set goals is to make them achievable, measurable and to set benchmarks so you can make it happen. Keep them posted on a sticky on your desktop, in your planner, or just somewhere that you’ll see them everyday. Keep em in the front of your mind!

As someone who personally has a track record of forgetting about these so-called resolutions half way through the year, I feel you if this is something you struggle with. Let’s just be honest about it, y’all. Things are not going to change unless you do something to change them! 2019 has the potential to be your year so get in there and pave your path to whatever your heart desires.

There’s always been the mantra of “new year, new me” and it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. As good as it can feel to “leave it all behind in 2018” I don’t honestly think it’s possible. This season is all about reflection: of where we’ve come from and where we have been. Use what you have learned whether it be from success or from failure TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. You don’t have to shut out all of the bad to get to the good! It’ll help you to grow. Learn from 2018, and use it to BE better and DO better in 2019. Because of 2018, you are changed!

With all this talk of change and goal-setting for a better year, here’s a peak into what I have challenged myself to achieve this year!

  1. Move more confidently and fearlessly. This is your life, and you are the one who has the ability to make things different. Confidence for me has come with age as well as out of hardships and challenges. I want to continue to learn from mistakes and work on being more confident in the decisions I am making in my life. Will this be my most difficult goal for the year? Heck to the yes. It’s not as much of a check yes or no goal but I think I’ll be able to look back by the end of the year to see whether or not I’ve moved confidently to get to that point!
  2. Learn to be more spontaneous. This seems to be a reoccurring pattern of mine as I did have a similar goal for myself this year. I definitely improved on that but I still have ways to go! As a TYPE A, it is sooo challenging to go off the books and be spontaneous. But it’s so rewarding to be able to live in the moment (even if it’s just for a day or two). With my new job (I’ll be a traveling consultant for my sorority this upcoming school year) that I’m starting in July, I think this’ll be easier to make happen. I won’t have a home-base per say, so jumping from place to place will 100 percent take me out of my comfort zone and methodical-like schedule I’ve been stuck in. Maybe I’ll try a new Starbucks drink or get another sub at Jimmy Johns that’s not the Vito? The options are truly endless.
  3. Take the time to be selfish. Ok, this may sound bad but hear me out? I’m going to be traveling for a living, going from place to place, mostly alone, at the back half of 2019. As a soon-to-be 22 year-old, I really feel like this is my time. It’s my opportunity to learn about myself, to do things for myself without reason! I may as well take this time in my early-twenties to be selfish, while I still can.
  4. Continue to journal (if not daily at least weekly). If you’ve read the blog before, you have definitely heard me talk about my newfound love for journaling. I LIVE FOR IT. Don’t know about y’all, but for me there is something about writing the thoughts in my head down on paper that is extremely therapeutic. I want to be able to look back through all my journals in the future and see my growth!
  5. Make a big girl purchase. Maybe a bag or pair of shoes? Still accepting suggestions, so let me know what y’all got. With me finally getting my first big-girl job after school, I am really wanting to buy myself something that I’ll have forever! It’s gonna feel amazing when I can actually afford something nice for myself! But until then, catch me with my fake Gucci :/
  6. NEW YORK AND CALIFORNIA. I’ll be traveling for a living, but I gotta get my butt back to New York (it’s one of my favorite places in the world…I’m obsessed with all of it) in order to keep me sane!! California has been on my bucket list forever so fingers crossed I can visit this spring!
  7. Find the joy in the little things. Like I’ve previously, stated my type A personality doesn’t always allow me to stop and enjoy the little things. In an effort to be a more appreciative person in general, I think finding happiness in the little things, no matter how small, is the best way to start!
  8. Even in those ruts, continue to create. This year especially, I allowed myself to shut down if I was stuck in a creative rut. This year I want to push myself to keep on creating when I’m not motivated to. Easier said then done, but some of my best work has come from pushing through that bump in the road. Being a self-proclaimed profectionist hasn’t helped me thus far, but I’m hoping my change in scenery will be inspiring to say the least!
  9. Money! Management! Yeah, I really gotta start adulting and get my money in track. I am a shopahaulic which complicates my saving money an awful lot lol. This year, I hope to start CONSISTENTLY saving a part of my paycheck. When I’m done traveling, I gotta start real life and there’s gonna be hella expenses/bills to pay. So if you see me spending copious amounts of money before I put my pre-portioned savings in it’s account, feel free to smack me across the face. I’ll thank ya later.

WHEW. Ok that was a mouthful. If you’re still reading, thank you. You’re an angel. Anyone wanna talk 2019 or even 2018? Leave me a comment below or message me on Instagram! Cheers to where we’ve come from and cheers to where we are headed!

xoxo

Knowing your self-worth

Posted in Lifestyle
on 10/17/2018

Hi y’all! I’m baaaaccck today with a #girltalk. Since this summer, these types of posts have been my absolute favorite to write. Being vulnerable on the internet can be scary, so I hope you’ll read this and it’ll be what you need to hear.

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Self-worth. How do we value ourselves? Do we have too little self-worth and continue to let people walk all over us or do we have oodles of it which drive us to be a total bad ass babe? If you’re asking about me, I would like to think I fall in the middle of the spectrum but that’s not entirely true. Self-worth has a lot of grey areas and I think that’s why I had such a difficult time sitting down to write this blog post. Shoutout to y’all for requesting posts like these that challenge me to think.

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I often hear the word self-worth in conjunction to relationships – whether they be boys or just friendships. Do you really not have enough self-worth to tell him something? You’re really gonna let her treat you like that? Clearly you don’t see how much your friendship really worth. 

As a chronically single twenty-one year old, a lot of times I find myself looking at self-worth when it comes to boys. If there is anything I have learned from the many times that things didn’t work out with a boy it’s this: just because he can’t see your worth, does NOT mean you don’t have it. You have to stay hopeful. As a self-proclaimed romantic (thank you rom-coms for making me this way), I have to think that someday things will work out. Someday there will be someone who can see all that I’m worth. But until then, I have to ride out this wave of life (even with all of it’s ups and downs) until that time comes. Keep doin you girl, there’s really no better way to respect yourself than that.

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In my opinion, self-worth is allowing yourself to experience things, to live life, get hurt. I don’t think self-worth necessarily relates to guarding yourself from anything and everything that could break you, but instead it means embracing it. Life is never going to be perfect, and you’re not always going to be happy. But being able to allow those experiences, whether they be good or bad happen and actually LEARN from them, now that to me is the true meaning of self-worth. You owe it to yourself to get heartbroken, try something new, and learn who your true friends are.

So let’s start looking at things this way: respect yourself enough to be strong and confident in your decisions – you know what’s right for you! Not anyone else. Get out there and LIVE, y’all. It will be worth it in the end. Only you can change your perspective on life. If you find yourself in a negative situation, live it and LEARN from it. You’ve only made yourself much stronger because of it.

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When you’re feeling down, or maybe not worthy of someone tell yourself this: I am worth it. I am enough. You don’t need validation from someone else to tell you what you’re worth. They don’t know your thoughts, they don’t know the struggles you’ve been through to get here, they don’t know the whole you. And if they did, then they certainly would be able to see ALL YOUR VALUE, ALL YOUR WORTH. It’s there, it’s always been there and it’ll be there for the rest of your life. So start acting like it. You are so worth it.

If you’re struggling with self-worth, try to take a bit of time each day to tell yourself something you love about yourself. One of my favorite things to do is to have a constant reminder so I’ll often set a quote I’m loving as my phone background. I’m sharing a few of my recent favorites with y’all below.

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YOU ARE ENOUGH. And if you needed to hear that today, hear it from me. SO much love for all of y’all who read! XOXO

 

Dealing with self-doubt

Posted in Lifestyle
on 08/30/2018

There’s something I’ve been struggling with lately: self-doubt. Maybe it’s the fact that I’m expected to be a real adult in less than 10 months, or maybe it’s the fact that I haven’t had much time to think about anything these past few weeks (thanks, recruitment)? Possibly it’s the combination of both, but all I know for sure is that I have felt off. 

Self-doubt is definitely a huge player in the game that is my life. I’m a type A personality, so I constantly have an internal battle going on. As my biggest critic, there’s always thoughts running through my mind of self-doubt.

Here’s a few things I’ve been doing to help curb this feeling!

JOURNALING

My FAVORITE thing I’ve taken from my #selfishsummer was journaling. I *tried* to make it a daily thing, but when things got busy it was more like one-two times a week thing. BUT STILL. I cannot explain how much better I feel after putting it allll out there on the pages of my journal. It’s extremely therapeutic especially if you’ve got a mind that runs a million miles a minute like mine. Get yourself a journal, decorate it and make it your own, and use it!

 POSITIVE THOUGHTS

When I’m down on myself, I like to flip back through my social media/camera roll to see how far I’ve come. Even since the beginning of this year I’ve grown so much! In January of 2018, I wouldn’t have been able to move 10 hours away from home for the summer. But hey! I did it and it made me a much stronger, more independent person. So when I’m feeling doubtful, I remind myself of everything I’ve already accomplished.

KEEP ON MOVING

Sometimes I think the best way to kick those ugly feelings to the curb is just to keep pushing. To keep moving and have faith you know where you’re headed. This might not work for everyone, but I know that for me it’s one of the best ways to do things. If I keep my mind occupied on other tasks then I have less time to doubt myself.

Life is definitely a journey and not a destination. By helping yourself along the way, it’ll make things a lot more fun! I’ll promise you that. So the next time you’re feeling a bit of self-doubt, take a step back. You’re a lot stronger than you think.

Cheers to getting back into the swing of things and a new school year!

xoxo